I was born and raised in a tiny little village in a magical land called Andalusia, in the south of Spain.
Just as mysterious as it may sound, up until my twenties I had lived a pretty conventional life: fighting with my sister over which Disney film to watch next, begging my mom to let us adopt the cat we had just found across the street, spending the long summers days on the beach, falling in and out of love as seasons changed, dancing at the clubs with my besties until the early morning as if that was all there was to life.
I was in my mid-twenties when I discovered that I wanted to do something else with this one and only life of mine beyond getting a college degree, having a successful career as a 9-5 employee and retiring after years of hard work to finally be able to enjoy my freedom and have the time to do all the things that I loved the most.
After years of trying really hard to fit in, going from trying to convince myself that this was just the way things worked to seriously considering that there was something very wrong with me because I indeed had everything anyone could wish for but I still couldn’t help feeling incredibly unfulfilled; one day I got so sick of it all that I decided I had gathered enough evidence that society’s formula to happiness was not gonna work for me…
And so I was gonna need to create my own.
The problem was… How the heck was I going to do that?
My whole life I had lived under the influence of what others believed was good for me. Now that I was waking up from this big lie, I felt like I was starting life from scratch all over again: suddenly I no longer knew who I was, what I believed in or even what I was passionate about; let alone any clarity as to what I wanted to do with my life.
They say find your passion and pursue it.
But what happens if you have no idea what that is or where to even start looking?
There was only one thing I did know: I wanted to live a remarkable and extraordinary life. One that I could look back at and feel wildly proud of. One that would put a big smile on my face and I could confidently claim that had been worth living.
I didn’t know how that life would be, or where to even begin my search. But I was determined to discover it despite the risks and the fears and I was not willing to settle for anything less. Ever.
I then embarked on a personal quest to uncover who I truly was and what I really wanted to do with my life.
Professionally, this journey took me to radically switch careers multiple times going from Computer Engineering (graduated in 2009) to International Business Management (2011). From Social Media Manager (2012), to becoming a professional English Teacher (2013-2018). From working as an IT Teacher at high schools (2018) to unexpectedly finding myself in the role of the Producer of an award-winning feature-length documentary (Meeting Jim, 2018) about Jim Haynes, a man who has been an inspiration to thousands, including myself.
At a more personal level, my thirst for adventure was insatiable. I wanted to see the world, meet and connect to other wild souls, let myself flow with life, and discover my passions and my true calling along the way. And also, why not, meet the love of my life.
And I did it. All of that.
I took up drawing and writing which I had abandoned as a child (the story sounds familiar?) and started to reconnect to the creative powers within me. I travelled across Spain to attend art courses in which I was (of course) the only one with zero background or experience (so many “what the heck am I doing here!?” moments).
I unexpectedly ended up living in some of my favourite cities around the world: Edinburgh, Paris, Barcelona, Istanbul and Seville. I backpacked across Southeast Asia and became fluent in two languages. But what truly made it all remarkable were the deep and meaningful human connections that I made along the way. Some of them for the span of a second, some of them that would last for a lifetime.
For years I would wake up every day feeling that my whole life had turned into a film I was eager to watch. There is nothing comparable to the intensity of the days when you go out there into the world and allow yourself to flow with the exhilarating unpredictability of life.
And finally (I know you’re awaiting this one), I met the love of my life watching sunset over the river Seine in Paris. Could life get any better?
Yes, it could. It always can.
After a couple of years of experimenting, I eventually came across the piece of the puzzle that was missing… and so my coaching career began.
It arrived just as smoothly as everything else. Without any planning, without me even noticing, through the simple act of deciding to start sharing more of what I found interesting and fascinating with the world, sharing more of myself, of what I had learn through years of living a life that was true to myself, sharing more of what I felt I enjoyed and was good at,… and simply sitting and watching it unfold.
I then started to find myself more and more often in situations where I would encourage, support and inspire others to embrace their true essence, stop postponing what was important to them year after year and start taking the first steps towards the life that they truly desired to live deep down within them.
It all starts with that first step.
And I encourage you to take it here and now. Today.
If you’re still hesitant, I’ll share with you here the conversation that years ago flung my eyes wide open:
"But you know how old I’ll be by the time I learn/achieve/become x,y,z?"
"The same age you will be if you don’t.
So just start."